Q & A: Love Language

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What is your love language?

I think we have all heard of the 5 love languages.  I took the quiz 2 years ago and I just took it again and the results have changed quite a bit.  This is my most result email result:

11 Receiving Gifts, 8 Words of Affirmation, 6 Acts of Service, 4 Quality Time, 1 Physical Touch

Receiving Gifts Don't mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous – so would the absence of everyday gestures. Gifts are visual representations of love and are treasured greatly.

	Words of Affirmation Actions don't always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, "I love you," are important – hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten. Kind, encouraging, and positive words are truly life-giving.
	Acts of Service Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an "Acts of Service" person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: "Let me do that for you." Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don't matter. Finding ways to serve speaks volumes to the recipient of these acts.
	Quality Time In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, "I love you," like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there – with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby – makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful. Quality Time also means sharing quality conversation and quality activities.
	Physical Touch This language isn't all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face – they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive. Physical touch fosters a sense of security and belonging in any relationship.

So as you can see, my love language is receiving gifts.  Two years ago it was acts of service but I think I'm too much of a control freak for that the be true anymore.  There's nothing I love more than when my husband brings home a little gift or flowers for me.  And yes, I still remind my husband of the anniversary gift that he never bought!

Words off affirmation is my second love language and that doesn't surprise me because I also love when I find notes from him or when he writes a little note on the chalk board we have in our kitchen.

Now he doesn't do either of these very often but that's because his love language is physical touch.  He doesn't need to take the test for me to know that.  I wish he would be able to these more often but I'm also not a big physical touch person so I know I need to work on that!

What's your love language?

You can take the quiz here: 5 Love Languages Test