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To Touch or Not To Touch...

...the baby bump that is!

Question of the week: Is it ok for complete strangers to walk up to you and touch your baby bump? What about family members and friends?

I have a serious issue with touching to begin with. The request is simple: Don't touch me! I don't like to be hugged. I don't like to be touched on the shoulder while you are talking to me. I especially don't like close talkers. I need my space! I need that space more now than ever.

I absolutely DO NOT think that it is ok for ANYONE to touch the baby bump, especially without asking! The only person who gets a free pass to touch the bump at any time is my husband, and maybe my Mom.

As far as strangers go, you don't just walk up to a complete stranger and touch their belly. I wouldn't even walk up to a stranger and ask to touch their belly. That's just weird and rude. Why would anyone do that? Why would you want to touch some random person's belly? And why would they let you?!

As far as family members go, that's a choice each person has to make. I'm more ok with family and friends than I would be with a stranger but I still don't expect my family or friends to just start touching me. I would expect them to ask first. And, if I am in a rare mood and decide to say no, I would expect them to be ok with that. Why do you want to touch it? It's not like the baby is moving!

I think that if someone says to you, "Oh! The baby is moving! Do you want to feel it?" then it's all good and you should go for it. Of course, it's the Mom's choice if she wants to share that with you or not. As far as I'm concerned, if you've had a baby before, you already know what it feels like so you don't need to touch mine.

So far, I have only had one friend get away with touching my belly without asking. She knows who she is and she knows that she probably won't get away with it again! Like I said, my husband is the only one who gets that free pass.

So is it wrong that I want to buy this t-shirt?


Is this one any less offensive?


I guess I don't really care if I offend anyone just keep your hands off my baby bump!

Any thoughts?

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