Hi, My Name Is...

My husband and I had a really hard time choosing Ashlyn's name.  We went back and forth for months before we finally decided what to name her.  I saw her name on a baby name website somewhere and added it to my list.  It was the only name on the list that he actually liked so that was it!  We decided to keep the name a secret until she was born, only allowing a very select group of people in on the secret.

We love her name.  It is annoying when people call her Ashley or Ashland but we knew that would happen when we chose the name.  I still love it and I don't regret it at all.  Let's face it, naming your kid is pretty important so you want to make sure you're picking something you love and something they can live with for the rest of their lives!

When we first started choosing names for Ashlyn, before we knew she was a she, my husband told me that if she had been a boy, he wanted a Jr.  No offense to any Jr's out there, but I'm just not into it.  I love non-traditional names.  If my husband had a cooler, non-traditional name, I'd be fine with having a Jr, but he doesn't.  He has a very traditional name.

Yuck.

My husband takes offense to me not liking his name.  I try to tell him that it has nothing to do with him as a person (obviously) I just don't like the more traditional names.  I'm probably sounding like a pretty big jerk here and all men named Bryan are getting ready to rally in defense of their name.

It's OK.  It's just my opinion. 

I cringe at the thought of someone calling my son Jr.  Ugh.  Gross.  I also cringe at the thought of someone calling my son BJ.  Aside from what those letters could stand for (yes go to the gutter for this one), I just don't like it.  Hey, I went to school with a guy who was a Jr and we called him BJ.  It was cool but it's not for me or my son.

The problem is, I have to see the look on my husband's face every time he talks about a) having a son and b) having a son with his name.  It's obvious that it means a lot to him.  And it's not a bad name, it's just a traditional name.  I guess there's really nothing wrong with that, though.

The only option my husband gave me was to use his brother's first name (Thomas) as our son's middle name. While I have no issues with this, I would much rather honor my husband's name than his brother's name.  And that's no offense to his brother at all because I know how close they are.  But I'm just not sure I would feel right about it.

So I guess it's finally time for me admit defeat on this one.  Our son's name is going to be...

Bryan Paul Miller, II

 

The word Jr will not be anywhere on the birth certificate.  My husband has agreed to this.  No one will be allowed to call him Jr or BJ.  If anyone does, I am allowed to throat punch correct them.  My husband has agreed to this as well.

 

It's a good, solid name and I'm sure I'll get over how traditional it is.  I did tell my husband that since he's getting this one, I get to name the third child (if we have one) and, yes, I already have the names picked out ! 

See What's In A Name to find out which names I had originally wanted.