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Heavy Heart

I apologize in advance because this is a sad and heavy post.

It seems like for every one happy article I find, there are five bad ones.  I was so happy to read the article yesterday praising a man for defending a little boy with Down Syndrome (See Warms My Heart.  And then today, I find articles that just completely blow my mind in the other direction and give me such a heavy heart.

Any one of these articles will make you cry if you read them so proceed with caution.

Step mom Convicted in Death of Boy
Father Sentenced to 80 Years in Death of Son
Parents Jailed as Human Remains Discovered
Ohio Couple Admits Forcing Kids Into Plastic Boxes

I just don't understand it.  These are our children.  Our innocent little babies.  I know we get frustrated with them.  I know we yell at them.  I know that some of us spank our kids.  But putting our children in dog cages?  Putting them in plastic containers?  Depriving them of water for days on end?

I just don't understand it.

My daughter is the most amazing thing that has ever happened to me.  She is beautiful and funny and smart and she makes me laugh every single day.  Does she make me want to rip my hair out sometimes?  Sure!  But that doesn't mean it's OK for me to abuse her!

She likes to hit....everyone.  I admit, sometimes I lose my patience with her and smack her little hand back when she hits me.  But whether or not that even phases her means nothing to me.  I immediately regret it. 

If there is one thing this child of mine has taught me, it's patience.  And even though I lose my shit with her sometimes and I may raise my voice a bit or smack her hand, I always find a way to pull myself back together and just explain to her that what she is doing is wrong.

I just don't understand why any parent would want to hurt their child.  I can't stand the way my daughter looks at me when I tell her no.  I can't take that sad little look on her face.  I know that there are times that I have to say no and mean it and that's OK.  But to maliciously hurt your child for no reason?  It's just not OK and it makes me so sad.

I would love to be able to adopt any child, but especially one that has had a bad past.  I would love to be able to show that child how different people can be, how much love some of us really have to give. 

I tell my daughter I love her every single day.  I give her big hugs and lots of kisses.  I stop and pick her up whenever she reaches for me no matter what I'm doing.  If she hands me that toy telephone, I answer it!  I don't ever want my kids to feel like I am neglecting them.

There is nothing wrong with using discipline.  I can't say that I think it's wrong to spank your children.  I can't say that I think it's wrong to ground them or take things away from them.  That's not abuse, that's responsible parenting.  But find the line....and don't cross it.

It just hurts my heart to know that these monsters exist. 

I think that man who locked his son in a dog cage should be locked in a dog cage and poked with a stick repeatedly and beaten on a daily basis.  I think the parents who duck taped their kids into plastic bins should be put in those exact bins and prodded with a cattle iron.  I'm sorry but these people need to suffer for what they've done.

I don't want my children to ever look at me in fear.  I want them to look at me with nothing but love and respect and know that I will always be here for them.  It is my job as a parent to protect my children, not the hurt them.  Why doesn't everyone get that?

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  1. It is a terrible, scary world we live in sometimes

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  2. I completely agree - it makes me sick to think of people hurting their precious children like that.

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  3. I totally agree as you know. I will never understand what makes people do these insane things. It makes me cry whenever I see something about a child. I cannot imagine doing anything like that to a kid or any human being or animal.

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