Ok now I am looking for some serious advice. If you've read some of my earlier posts, you will know that I'm not a big fan of daycare. I really hate leaving my Baby Girl with people I don't really know all day long. Now we know the woman who takes care of Baby Girl for the most part which really helps and was the deciding factor in her going to that particular daycare.
The problem I am now having is that there have been 3 or 4 times when I have picked Baby Girl up from daycare and she has had a bad fever. I'm not talking a little 99 degree fever. I'm talking you could fry an egg on the palm of her hand 102 degree fever.
It happened again last night. When I got there, the afternoon lady was holding her and as soon as I took her, I could feel the heat radiating off of her. When I got her home, her temperature was 102.9. This is not they kind of temperature you play around with.
Since Baby Girl has been prone to fevers for some reason, I stripped her down, gave her Tylenol and hoped for the best. The temperature did go down (never down past 100) but then went back up later that evening. I gave her a cool bath, more Tylenol and put her to bed. She felt warm this morning but she had no signs of a fever.
Again, this wasn't a little fever. This was obvious. The lady should have known something was wrong. Should have at least checked her temperature. Something! So what do I do? My husband took Baby Girl to daycare today and I gave him a list of what not-to-dos for the care givers today. I also told him to make sure they know that I am PISSED! I will be voicing this again when I go pick her up this afternoon.
So, do I voice my concerns with the care givers and the head staff with the threat of one more time or do I just pull her out and go elsewhere? I know that there are other babies in the infant room that they have to look after but when I pick her up in the evenings, she is always the last one there and the woman is almost always holding her. I just don't see how something like this can be overlooked!
So again, do I:
A. Voice my issue with the staff and head staff with the threat of one more time and I'll go elsewhere
B. Just go elsewhere and not waste any time
C. Just leave it alone. I can't expect them to know she has a fever (even though it was obvious)
When I picked her up earlier this week, she was laying on the floor on her belly in a room where all of these little toddlers were running around. Um, she's 7 months old and teething. She puts her hands in her mouth constantly and you have her laying on a dirty floor? And of course the kids were running around like little crazies and any one of them could have stomped on her!
Maybe I am just trying to find any way I can to justify me staying at home because clearly no one can take care of my Baby Girl better than I can. If you think that's what it is, that I may be overreacting a little bit, then tell me that too. I just want what's best for my little Baby Girl!
The problem I am now having is that there have been 3 or 4 times when I have picked Baby Girl up from daycare and she has had a bad fever. I'm not talking a little 99 degree fever. I'm talking you could fry an egg on the palm of her hand 102 degree fever.
It happened again last night. When I got there, the afternoon lady was holding her and as soon as I took her, I could feel the heat radiating off of her. When I got her home, her temperature was 102.9. This is not they kind of temperature you play around with.
Since Baby Girl has been prone to fevers for some reason, I stripped her down, gave her Tylenol and hoped for the best. The temperature did go down (never down past 100) but then went back up later that evening. I gave her a cool bath, more Tylenol and put her to bed. She felt warm this morning but she had no signs of a fever.
Again, this wasn't a little fever. This was obvious. The lady should have known something was wrong. Should have at least checked her temperature. Something! So what do I do? My husband took Baby Girl to daycare today and I gave him a list of what not-to-dos for the care givers today. I also told him to make sure they know that I am PISSED! I will be voicing this again when I go pick her up this afternoon.
So, do I voice my concerns with the care givers and the head staff with the threat of one more time or do I just pull her out and go elsewhere? I know that there are other babies in the infant room that they have to look after but when I pick her up in the evenings, she is always the last one there and the woman is almost always holding her. I just don't see how something like this can be overlooked!
So again, do I:
A. Voice my issue with the staff and head staff with the threat of one more time and I'll go elsewhere
B. Just go elsewhere and not waste any time
C. Just leave it alone. I can't expect them to know she has a fever (even though it was obvious)
When I picked her up earlier this week, she was laying on the floor on her belly in a room where all of these little toddlers were running around. Um, she's 7 months old and teething. She puts her hands in her mouth constantly and you have her laying on a dirty floor? And of course the kids were running around like little crazies and any one of them could have stomped on her!
Maybe I am just trying to find any way I can to justify me staying at home because clearly no one can take care of my Baby Girl better than I can. If you think that's what it is, that I may be overreacting a little bit, then tell me that too. I just want what's best for my little Baby Girl!
As a former daycare employee I think this is totally unacceptable! I would definitely bring it to their attention. Most importantly, follow your gut! If you are not comfortable with your caregivers, find someone else. Good luck!
ReplyDeleteOh good....former daycare employee. I don't think it's too much to ask right? I mean, I know they are busy with other babies but she was really hot! Definitely looking elsewhere! Thanks!
DeleteThat's something that should not have been overlooked! Especially since she was being held when you picked her up. Definite red flag!
DeleteI don't think your overreacting. I took my son to a friend of mine when he was 6 weeks to almost 9 months old. He was constantly sick & always in a bad mood when I picked him up! I would have taken him elsewhere if I could have afforded it. They should be able to check her temp and call you if she is running a fever. I agree with Sandy, follow your gut! I would go to the person who cares for her first, if that doesn't work then go to their supervisor and keep working up the line until something happens
ReplyDeleteThanks! I didn't think I was overreacting but I thought I'd throw it out there just in case. I mean, I hate leaving her there to begin with then these kinds of things happen that make me hate it even more!
DeleteIn our experience as SOON as your kid spikes a fever, no matter what it may be from, the parents are called and you have to come pick them up and they can't go back for 24 hours or until their fever is gone. It's the policy at most daycares here.
ReplyDeleteThat being said, I'd be making it clear that as soon as the LO feels warm to touch her temperature should be taken and if she is over whatever temp. you feel uncomfortable at, then you should be notified. If they want you to come pick her up then do that, if you think it's OK to leave her to the end of the day and she's not acting abnormally otherwise, then let them know that too.
Unfortunately babies sometimes get fevers for no reason, so maybe they are just feeling like if she gets high temps all the time it's probably nothing to worry about, but I'd let them know to let you know regardless.
Also in our daycare experiences the toddlers and babies are seperated except during the occasional play times where they are being watched carefully. I'd look into other daycare options, but just know that when it comes to daycare, you definitely get what you pay for!
ReplyDeleteI know it's hard to tell when she has a fever because she is happy all of the time, even though a fever! I just can't believe they wouldn't feel the heat of a 103 temperature. It's a church daycare so I guess i just expected better. The 104 temp I came home to today send us right to the doctor. Double ear infections it is!
DeleteAs a former daycare employee, I would never trust my children in a daycare. Too much went on while I was there that I didn't like, and had no control over. I'm not saying that all daycares are bad, but my experience left me with a very negative perspective. When I worked, I took my son to an in-home daycare provider. It was wonderful. I liked the environment better (more like home, obviously), not as many kids running around for them to keep track of, and if something goes wrong, you know who's to blame! lol
ReplyDeleteI think we are going to try to find an in-home daycare. They are usually more flexible with days as well. So they won't make you pay for a day that the baby is sick like a regular daycare will. I feel like this poor child has been nothing but sick since birth and I can't help but think daycare plays a big part in it!
DeleteNot to sound biased....but I absolutely hate day care. I swore up and down that I would NEVER EVER place my next child in a daycare after previous experiences! When I became pregnant with adam, I investigated EVERY other option, and was willing to deal with anything to keep my child in my home, despite how much it would cost me. We had a nanny, and when she went full time with another family, my father and step mom offered to watch the boys. I was very nervous at first, however, there is nothing like family, or a private nanny taking care of your child. Although even family may not do exactly as you might, it's easier to keep tabs, and definitely less stressful knowing that someone who actually loves the child is caring for them.
ReplyDeleteTravis was fed left over lunches of milk shakes, chicken nuggets, and pizza at my college daycare in reading, as they were too lazy to heat up his food that I sent. Keep in mind he was under 12 months at the time. They would then call me out of class to tell me that he had an episode of diarrhea after eating the lunches.... he remained lactose intolerant for several years. He was hit over the head with a blunt object at one daycare and had a huge hematoma, and nobody bothered to call me and everyone was clueless as to how it occured. I caught another place using alcohol disinfecting wipes on my kids butt, and using regular huggies wipes to "disinfect" the tables and toys. Another woman would use the same tissue and go right down the line wiping noses. Another I watched mop up vomit, and then head over to make lunches and feed kids. I actually attended a field trip for 2-3 year olds to chaperone my own child and found a small toddler out by the highway of a farm. Guessing that she belongs to the daycare, I picked her up, and started walking toward the farm. It wasn't until one of the ladies saw me holding her, that she even realized the little girl was gone. Worse part being, it appeared as though this daycare worker only had 2 other kids in tote... and....the list goes on.
If you feel that your daughter is not cared for properly, and see evidence of this, remove her from the daycare. From my experience, once that trust has been broken, it's very difficult to ever have faith in that establishment to care for your child.
Travis was always sick in daycare, and it certainly did not boost his immunity as they say it does. he's 8 now and still catches everything. My adam has never stepped foot in a daycare, but attends nursery and play groups, and is around kids constantly and has had 2 fevers in almost 2 years. So don't believe the line of bull that she will be healthier later for attending daycare now. She will get plenty of exposure in school!!!!
Good luck. i wish i lived in the area. You could bring that little cutie here!
Holy shiz Lindsey LOL I just feel like she is always sick. I know they say that's normal for the first year but I'm not buying it! She had a coughing fit at 3:30am this morning. Not cool! This is her second round of double ear infections and this one is much worse that the first one. I hate to see my little girl miserable, esp since she is always so happy! I can't believe all of the crap you have gone through with daycares and will now be even more cautious about it. While I do think I'm looking for just about any excuse to pull her and stay home with her, I also truly believe that these people are just not sufficiently trained to take care of my child! I know I'm not going to be happy until I can stay home with her.
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