I have never been a resolutions kind of person. I have always hated the thought of making goals for myself that I pretty much knew I wouldn't achieve and would just add to a new list the next year. Morbid, I know, but honest.
This year, I am setting some goals for myself because I want to make changes. In my life. In my kids' lives. I my husband's life. I need changes to be made. So here we go. My New Year's resolutions. My 2014 goals.
Lose weight - yes, it's the typical resolution but it's a good one. It's one I need to have. It's one I need to achieve. I don't want to carry around this extra weight anymore. I want to be healthy. I don't want to diet, I want to make lifestyle changes. It has to happen now. Plus, if I want to get pregnant with another baby this year, I'd like to be healthy.
Drink less - less soda, less alcohol, less anything but water. I drink way too much soda. My husband and I like to have some alcoholic beverages every now and then as well. We used to only drink on weekends but now we find ourselves having a cocktail or two on any given week night. Not a big deal, just something I'd like to slim back on. I'm also the girl who drinks way too much at parties and acts like an asshat so I think we can cut back on that. It's something that should also help me lose the weight. We certainly drink too much soda, too, even if it is diet caffeine free.
Budget - we have never had a budget. We have never really needed to have one. Now that I am not working and we are surviving on one income, a budget is in order. I need to get this done. We are so used to just buying whatever we want and not thinking twice about it but we really need to sit and think about what's important with our finances.
A new house - this one is a little more difficult but it's necessary. We need to move. We have two adults, two kids, three dogs and one cat in a tiny two bedroom home and it's just not working. We have no room. The dogs don't get enough exercise because there is no room for them to run. The place is always cluttered because we have more toys than our local Toys R Us. We just need to move. We have a jump on this already but it's not set in stone so we'll see.
Another baby - I'm adding this to my list even though my husband isn't quite on board. He hasn't closed the door on me in the kid department but he would be happy if we stopped with the two we have. I'm just not ready. I really feel like we need a third child in our lives. I think I'd be able to say that I'm done with three (but you never know!) He wants to wait a little longer to have the third one but I like the small age gaps between kids so we'll see!
Give more - I love to help people out. It makes me feel good to do things for other people. So I want to give more. I want to pay for someone's dinner randomly. I want to donate toys to a needy family. I want to travel to the Soul Kitchen and volunteer for a meal. I need to do things that are good for my heart if I want to make a difference in my life and in other's lives.
Unplug - this one is my husband's idea. Every night at 8pm we are going to turn the TV's off and put the phones down and just have family time, tech free. We chose 8pm to start but we do plan to make it earlier at some point. We just need to turn all the tech off and focus on us as a family.
Have more patience - I have never been a patient person. Having kids has helped that but I think I could still use a little work. I try very hard not to rush my kids. I always tell Ashlyn to take her time even if we are running late. I always stop and give her hugs when she asks no matter what I'm doing. I try not to get angry when she destroys her room because she always helps me clean it up. But I still do find myself losing my patience now and then so I'm going to work on this. More patience with my kids, with my husband, with my animals, with my friends, with strangers. Just more patience all around.
Give more compliments - the other day my husband and I went to dinner without the kids. I was in a terrible mood and it was written all over my face. The waitress, instead of dismissing me, complimented my purse. This changed the entire mood. That one little compliment. I think I need to try some of that.
Take more ME time - the last time I did something for me and only me was July, when I went to the salon and got my hair cut. I don't take any time away from the family for myself. My husband works a lot so it's hard for me to schedule ME time but it needs to happen this year. I need to be able to balance my ME time and my family time or else this Momma is gonna go crazy!
I think that's it for my goals for the year. I'm sure I will add to this list as the year goes on or adjust it. I really want to achieve these goals, though. I have already made changes to achieve these goals and I look forward to 2014 with these goals in mind.
What are your non-resolutions?
This year, I am setting some goals for myself because I want to make changes. In my life. In my kids' lives. I my husband's life. I need changes to be made. So here we go. My New Year's resolutions. My 2014 goals.
Lose weight - yes, it's the typical resolution but it's a good one. It's one I need to have. It's one I need to achieve. I don't want to carry around this extra weight anymore. I want to be healthy. I don't want to diet, I want to make lifestyle changes. It has to happen now. Plus, if I want to get pregnant with another baby this year, I'd like to be healthy.
Drink less - less soda, less alcohol, less anything but water. I drink way too much soda. My husband and I like to have some alcoholic beverages every now and then as well. We used to only drink on weekends but now we find ourselves having a cocktail or two on any given week night. Not a big deal, just something I'd like to slim back on. I'm also the girl who drinks way too much at parties and acts like an asshat so I think we can cut back on that. It's something that should also help me lose the weight. We certainly drink too much soda, too, even if it is diet caffeine free.
Budget - we have never had a budget. We have never really needed to have one. Now that I am not working and we are surviving on one income, a budget is in order. I need to get this done. We are so used to just buying whatever we want and not thinking twice about it but we really need to sit and think about what's important with our finances.
A new house - this one is a little more difficult but it's necessary. We need to move. We have two adults, two kids, three dogs and one cat in a tiny two bedroom home and it's just not working. We have no room. The dogs don't get enough exercise because there is no room for them to run. The place is always cluttered because we have more toys than our local Toys R Us. We just need to move. We have a jump on this already but it's not set in stone so we'll see.
Another baby - I'm adding this to my list even though my husband isn't quite on board. He hasn't closed the door on me in the kid department but he would be happy if we stopped with the two we have. I'm just not ready. I really feel like we need a third child in our lives. I think I'd be able to say that I'm done with three (but you never know!) He wants to wait a little longer to have the third one but I like the small age gaps between kids so we'll see!
Give more - I love to help people out. It makes me feel good to do things for other people. So I want to give more. I want to pay for someone's dinner randomly. I want to donate toys to a needy family. I want to travel to the Soul Kitchen and volunteer for a meal. I need to do things that are good for my heart if I want to make a difference in my life and in other's lives.
Unplug - this one is my husband's idea. Every night at 8pm we are going to turn the TV's off and put the phones down and just have family time, tech free. We chose 8pm to start but we do plan to make it earlier at some point. We just need to turn all the tech off and focus on us as a family.
Have more patience - I have never been a patient person. Having kids has helped that but I think I could still use a little work. I try very hard not to rush my kids. I always tell Ashlyn to take her time even if we are running late. I always stop and give her hugs when she asks no matter what I'm doing. I try not to get angry when she destroys her room because she always helps me clean it up. But I still do find myself losing my patience now and then so I'm going to work on this. More patience with my kids, with my husband, with my animals, with my friends, with strangers. Just more patience all around.
Give more compliments - the other day my husband and I went to dinner without the kids. I was in a terrible mood and it was written all over my face. The waitress, instead of dismissing me, complimented my purse. This changed the entire mood. That one little compliment. I think I need to try some of that.
Take more ME time - the last time I did something for me and only me was July, when I went to the salon and got my hair cut. I don't take any time away from the family for myself. My husband works a lot so it's hard for me to schedule ME time but it needs to happen this year. I need to be able to balance my ME time and my family time or else this Momma is gonna go crazy!
I think that's it for my goals for the year. I'm sure I will add to this list as the year goes on or adjust it. I really want to achieve these goals, though. I have already made changes to achieve these goals and I look forward to 2014 with these goals in mind.
What are your non-resolutions?
These are good goals! I'm like you, I tend to shy away from resolutions, but I think it can be a good thing sometimes too. :-)
ReplyDeleteI'm surprised you never have had a budget considering how biddy-biddy bomb bomb you are with frugal spending. You're always getting deals and you freakin finished xmas shopping way before I even started! I like the give more compliments thing, I do believe a simple compliment can change a ship's direction. I'm going to adopt that resolution for myself.
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